This idea itself was destabilizing to me when I heard it. I mean, really? Learning doesn’t make you feel safe and contained and stable? This almost goes against my understanding of why we engage in more learning. Aren’t we all trying to find stability and safety?
This is where I realize many of our educational systems have gone slightly off track. If we are looking for safety and stability, it’s probably easier to find that if we are told what to do, have rules we follow, and if we don’t think too much about what or why we are doing something.
But wait! This is not what I want.
Deep down, I want to be creative, fully alive, curious. And here is where my dilemma comes to the fore. In order to explore and create I do need to be open to change. This destabilizing effect helps propel me into new realizations and discoveries.
It is also inherently uncomfortable.
I bring up this idea because many people come to me searching for a way to feel more alive, more pleasure, to get out of the ‘stuck’ place they find themselves in. And I have to tell them that in order to learn new ways, it is going to feel messy for awhile, maybe even scary.
How often have you seen a young child learning to walk, they effort to stand up, and then they find the courage to let go and try taking that first shaky step. What happens to us that we lose this fearlessness as we age? We want to learn to fly, but we are too afraid to jump.
I see many people these days using trauma and physical illness as an excuse to stay stuck, to play small, to live within our safe zone. I’m not saying that the trauma or the pain or illness is not real, or that it doesn’t pose unique challenges and obstacles. But the idea that in order to learn a new way of being we have to let go of our old patterns and ways of coping, is a hard pill to swallow.
I notice our education system dumbing down the material so much that kids aren’t challenged anymore at all. They don’t have the experience of true learning, of walking that edge where excitement and fear nip at your heels. And yet the exhilaration of a new discovery is better than you could ever imagine.
True learning lifts your spirit and makes you soar.
I have found in my practice that new learning can take place in our bodies. We can slowly try expanding our nervous system to explore new sensations which lead to a feeling of expansion and even joy. With this somatic learning as a template, we learn to expand our ways of thinking and feeling also. We become more open and curious about people, thoughts or ideas that are different than ours.
This de-stabilizing effect can reap huge rewards, allowing us to experience things we never even considered before. We can see the opportunity not only in our own bodies but in the world. The chance to feel the edge and allow ourselves to learn something new.
It is my belief that this work I help clients do, will help expand our consciousness and our ability to adapt as a species. Just as the toddler learning to walk, loses their balance and then finds they can catch themselves by taking a step forward. We can reinstate our own learning process by being willing to let go of the fixed stability that stops us moving forward.
This process can be gentle and within a ‘safe enough’ container. We don’t want to destabilize ourselves so much that we lose our grip altogether. Helping my clients walk this edge of curiosity is my gift to anyone brave enough to work with me.
Are you interested in this kind of learning process?
Check out my website and get in touch with me for a consult. I’m more than happy to walk the edge of your learning zone with you, and find out if you can fly.