Last week we talked about knowing if it was our intuition guiding us, or just some kind of wishful thinking or avoidance. We talked about that feeling of discomfort that won’t leave us alone until we listen. That fizz of fear that tells us we will have to step outside our comfort zone a little in order to claim our dreams. So what is it that allows us to not only listen to this inner guidance but actually take action on it?
Believe it or not, it’s self-esteem.
Being able to trust ourselves, that inner voice, and actually act on that guidance, means we have to have respect and esteem for, yes you guessed it! OURSELF. We have to know we are worthy of being listened to.
Ok, so now I know you are shaking your head and wondering how do we build self-esteem? Self-esteem requires courage. Trusting ourselves, our inner voice requires courage and knowing we are worth listening to. Courage, in this case, requires us to protect and fight for ourselves, another word might be ‘selfish’ in a good way. And being able to care for ourselves in this way is just a little bit narcissistic, in the sense of thinking and listening to our own self over and above anyone or anything else.
Aha! And now we begin to see the root of the problem. Learning to follow our intuition means we have to think more of ourselves, and for many of us, that has just never been an option.
We have been forced to drink the cool-aid of ‘always think of others before yourself’ so how in the name of all that is good, can we begin to listen to ourselves and our intuition, ESPECIALLY IF it is telling us to do or be something no one else would tell us?
It seems a little unfair to point all this out without offering a way to move forward. I mean it's obvious we are going to have to undergo some form of transformation here. The key is to make the changes small enough that the fear of the change doesn’t keep us stuck.
Changing one small thing about yourself or your life is possible, isn’t it? The act of DECIDING to change is the big hurdle, the symbolic act that begins to take you on a different path. You have probably all had the feeling at some point of relief and momentum and energy that comes when you actually decide to do something. Whether it's going to the grocery store or joining a gym. Deciding to commit 100% to that thing creates a drop of self-esteem. YOU decided something and YOU are doing it, therefore YOU are worth the investment.
If the change you decide to make is a manageably sized change, that is, not too scary and out there, then you will find you won’t sabotage the change. If you manage to carry out the change, it will inevitably lead to the next change and the next, and before you know it, you have much greater self-esteem and trust in yourself, because you have built that muscle!
So, here we are at that point of decision, and we need to get quiet and listen to that inner guidance. What is that small but important change that has been nagging you at the back of your mind for a while. Or what is that thing that showed up, and made you take notice?
Was it the idea to start walking every day? Eating salad? Talking to a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while?
Maybe it was reading this post, maybe your next step is booking a call to talk to me about moving forward.
If you get a YES that’s it!! Kind of feeling, then click on the link below and take the next step in building your self-esteem.
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I look forward to guiding you on your journey.