So this week I thought I’d give a taste of what is possible when you expand your ideas around play in the bedroom. Maybe you feel like you’ve gotten in a rut, performing the same few things with the same partner, and finding yourself becoming bored with the predictability. You may find yourself sighing and wishing things were more exciting, or worse, blaming your partner for not being more ‘romantic’.
Well, I have a suggestion! Take a shopping trip! Ok, not a huge or expensive shopping trip, but just a quick run to the Dollar store maybe. I know, you are wondering what on earth they have at the dollar store that will spice up a flagging sex life? Actually lots of things.
Let me explain.
One of the greatest things about sex is that we get to touch and be touched. As human beings, touch is a need. Scientifically, it has been shown that if we are not touched enough as babies, we do not develop properly. People need touch! There are many ways to do this, and often we have explored many ways of touching with our partner already. If you haven’t experimented with light touch versus heavier touch, a gentle slap versus a loving stroke, or other versions of touching, then what are you waiting for? Try some combos out and see what your pleasure is.
If you have done all that and are at a loss, then back to my shopping trip idea.
So as you peruse the aisles of the Dollar store, put your mind in a place you don’t normally let it go. Imagine that paintbrush being dragged along your inner arm, what would it feel like? Soft, prickly, scratchy? What about that feather duster tickling your neck? How about that body mitt for the shower... what would that feel like on your bare skin? Do you get my drift? Explore sensations!
The real fun comes when you take your various implements home and surprise your loved one as you unpack your bag and line up your new toys. Offer to test them out on your lover, maybe using a blindfold on them, so they have to guess what you are using. It’s a sensory pleasure feast! Be as creative as you want, as long as your partner is enjoying what you are offering.
Then you can swap roles, and have them experiment on you! Voila! The perfect ‘date night in’ game. If you get into the process and want to try some other sensory experiments, you can try feeding each other different foods while the receiver is blindfolded, and having them guess what each thing is. Smells can also be fun to explore. The variety is only limited by your own imagination!
After you’ve tried this, I know you will never look at the dollar store the same way again! You may also open your relationship to more spontaneity and inspiration. Goodbye boredom in the bedroom, and hello to hot and spicy sex play.
Fill your life with pleasure!